Transforming parents' fears into wisdom for kids

Child goes to someone else's house and says, "I wish I lived here."

On the drive home, parent says to child: 

Scenario #1:  "We don't tell others that we wish to live in their house."

Parent's fear:

• Parent fears that the child is not satisfied with what the house they have provided as well as looking "less than" in front of others. 

Child learns:  

• My wishes and desires are not welcomed by this parent. I need to show people I have the best of everything even when I feel that I don't. 

Behavioral Mapping & Blueprint child inherits from parent:

• This child's ability to see and speak their authentic truth gets de-prioritized. Instead they start to see themselves according to how others see them. This is how they become disconnected with who they are - their truth - their authentic selves. 
• Fear and Extrinsic Motivation is strengthened. 

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Scenario #2:  "Can you tell me more about why you wish you lived there? I want to make sure I can help you make those wishes come true. And next time you feel that way, can you tell me that in private and not infront of everyone?... because wishes are special and need to be shared only with people we love and trust - that is how they come true."

Transform parent's fear into a need:

• Parent notices their fears and transforms it into a need for sharing such feelings in privacy. Parent is also able to share a wise truth with their child.

Child learns:  

• My wishes and desires are very important to this parent. My wishes can come true and my parent wants to help me make them come true.

Behavioral Mapping & Blueprint child inherits from parent:

• This child's ability to see and speak their authentic truth is prioritized. 
• They create a blueprint that helps them understand that dreams can create vulnerability which is sacred and to be shared only with people we love and trust deeply.

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